A Five-Year-Old Vs An Eight-Year-Old Mind

At five years old, you really don’t care much about anything. Not about that woman on the other side of the phone who is under the weather, lying in bed with drugs running through her veins, their effect making her drowsy so all she wants to do more than anything is to grab some shut-eye, but she will not do […]

Holding Hands And Conversations

I find my hand always seeking hers subconsciously. I notice how small her hand is. How small she is. I notice how young and innocent she is. How beautiful and fragile and alive and accepting and unassuming and embracive she is. You have to love Heidi: Her person, her smile, her sweet baby voice. We are heading home from school. […]

The Drunk Passenger

Steven Spielberg should have been with us that evening. He would have made a great movie out of this seven minute scene. He should have been there, walking next to Heidi, Hailey and I as we came from school where I had gone to pick them at 4pm. Heidi and I are walking hand in hand and Hailey insists on […]

Coloring within the lines

My daughters have answers to every question asked. Check out our conversations recently: Hailey: (Makes a sound; half-belch, half-hiccup, half-cough) Me: (Teasingly) Did you just belch? Hailey: No! I don’t belch. Me: You don’t? Hailey: No. I am not a boy! Me: (Rolls eyes in defeat) Me: (Offering Hailey her 4 o’clock tea) Do you want bread or pancakes to […]

My ‘Rocking Chair’ Test

You reach a certain age and suddenly, as if a blinding veil has finally been lifted off, you start seeing things more clearly. Say I am 80 years old, right? Work with me here…I am 80, I have no teeth. A wrinkled face is definitely inevitable – forget what Nivea have been trying to sell to you – the wrinkles […]

My True North

I have never been a city girl. Not at heart, at least. I love the country life. I fantasize about living in a big house deep in the village, surrounded by trees, bushes, grass and wild nature – creepy crawlies and all. Eeew, you say? Fine, those I can do without but I will insist on uninterrupted internet connection, electricity […]

Scramble for Excellence

I opted for the third row from the front, a few meters away from the podium. I sat on a seat at the end of the row, next to a gentleman who was reading a newspaper. There were a few of us. The meeting was to begin at 9.30am. Please keep time, the letter had said. I was twenty minutes […]

Motherhood: What I was never told

Something happens when you hold a small fragile-boned newborn in your arms. If you sit still for a moment and really get lost in that moment, you might feel your heart melt. I kid you not! The sweet baby scent will waft to caress your nostrils and you will be tempted to have another baby if only to enjoy that […]

The Church of Play

Allow me to let you in on the drama that unfolds when you take a child Heidi’s age to church. She is two years old now and at her age, she can talk – boy, can she talk! She is however still new to socialisation and  cannot be left with unfamiliar faces without her making a fuss. The deal with […]

She Wore A Pair Of Jeans, And Stepped Into The Night

Our new house help calls me ‘Mama Nelly’. The first time she called me that, I offered to tutor her on the pronunciation of my daughter’s name. So I asked her to say “HAILEY(pause) Mama HAILEY” In the manner of Bond (pause) James Bond. Then she goes “Hellen?” I correct, “Hapana. H-A-I-L-E-Y” she repeated, “HALEY” refusing to acknowledge the ‘I’. […]