Love For Fools

You warned me. And I’ve been thinking about you. You said, this is not the man you want to love. This is not the man you want to announce to the world loves you. This is not the man you want to take home to mum and dad. This is not the man you want to have a child with. […]

Don’t Call Me A Single Mother

Mine is the typical story of a failed marriage. You think you have it figured out. You also think he has you figured out. So decidedly, you take a chance on each other. And they call you a married woman. Years into your marriage, you have children with him. They still call you a married woman. They also call you […]

A Sponsor For My Husband (Part I)

You’ll always know if he’s cheating on you, won’t you? I did when he started stepping out on our marriage. I knew it even without having to hire a detective to unearth his infidelity. I did not have to go through his phone, his Facebook messages, Twitter DMs or WhatsApp – not social media please, no. I did not learn […]

Still A Man

You are that woman who has been married for seven years. No children have been forthcoming in those many years. You wonder why your womb will not budge. Why it will not honour you with an offspring or two. Two, a boy and a girl, would be nice. You’ve dreamt it, craved it, willed it, prayed for it – there’s […]

A Five-Year-Old Vs An Eight-Year-Old Mind

At five years old, you really don’t care much about anything. Not about that woman on the other side of the phone who is under the weather, lying in bed with drugs running through her veins, their effect making her drowsy so all she wants to do more than anything is to grab some shut-eye, but she will not do […]

You’re Every Woman

You have listened to Whitney Houston sing her rendition of Chaka Khan’s ‘I’m every woman’. You have watched the video where she dances with her belly showing the promise of life. You’ve believed that you too are every woman, just like she is. You are young and you believe that when the time comes. When the time is right, you […]

Holding Hands And Conversations

I find my hand always seeking hers subconsciously. I notice how small her hand is. How small she is. I notice how young and innocent she is. How beautiful and fragile and alive and accepting and unassuming and embracive she is. You have to love Heidi: Her person, her smile, her sweet baby voice. We are heading home from school. […]

Push, Pull and Pluck!

Just as there are many ways of killing a rat, there are as many ways of extracting milk teeth. You could visit a dentist and let them take care of everything as you try to convince your child to allow him to insert metals in and out of their mouth. Or you could tie a string around your child’s tooth […]

For the sake of the children

I know a woman. She is in her fifties. Life has taken its toll on her for she looks nothing like the vibrant, beautiful girl she used to be. She loved life. She was adventurous and playful –  was even somewhat of a bully in school. She was the life of the party, leader of the ‘gang’. She was a […]