Behind The Closed Door

Domestic violence is a preserve of closed doors. Both perpetrator and victim will always strive to keep that door firmly shut. Do you remember that video of a man who slapped his pregnant wife in full view of their neighbours? Feeling all ninja, he decided to drag her back into the house, he closed the door and beat her to […]

That Wife In Your Head

She is the right amount of submissive. The perfect dose of educated. She is not too loud. Very beautiful. Exquisite even. Most importantly, she is not a feminist – haaaalleluyah! She meets you at the door when you come home (tired) from work – you hardworking citizen you! She is ready to emulate Destiny’s Child and cater to you. Meeting […]

After All: 2015 In One Sentence

A long while after trudging in feeling all fresh and unadulterated, smelling like that new shoe bought (not from a mitumba dealer – please! – but) from the Chinese -, Turkish -, or Dubai – stocking footwear dealer, the shoes therefore having never known the feel, the (foul) odor, the contour or the sweatiness of any other feet; after giving […]

A Man To Go With My Furniture.

I have done everything that society asks of me, but get and keep a man. I have done well in school. Gone ahead and clinched good grades. When I was attacked by the severe case of adolescence, which bestowed me with boobs, hips, periods and heap-loads of acne, society sat me down, handed me a packet of Always and said: […]

The F word

Pretty soon, she will look to us and seek some advice on how to forge ahead, then we will be forced to step up. This young girl who is constantly thinking about her dream wedding. She pictures herself in that white flowing dress, veil intact, walking towards this breathtaking hunk of a guy (the ultimate prince charming in her young […]

From the outside looking in

I am no expert when it comes to matters to do with men. That is because I am as female as they come; emotions in the truckload with erratic mood swings to boot. Through this body, pregnancies have been carried, oestrogen has had the chance (and grabbed it) to flare up, morning sickness has been nursed and children have been […]

Whose Pregnancy Is It Anyway?

Have you been waiting for this man you’ve been dating for years to go down on one knee and ask you to marry him? After the proposal, do you hope that a wedding will follow? To usher you to your happily ever after? Well, maybe you should hold that thought for a while. There is an article that was carried […]

I Am Not Your Savior – You Are!

I saw you. Brilliant. Beautiful . Breathtaking. The day was yours. Yours to enjoy, get pampered, get heard – everyone listens to the bride. Your bouquet was secured in your hands and a graceful gait affixed to your steps. Your smile; happy, exciting, uncontainable. You did not just look happy. No, no, hell no! You were happy – your eyes, […]